Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs.Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs was written in 2004 by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs and first published by Integrity Publishers, Nashville, TN. The book was a national bestseller. In his book, Eggerichs argues that men value respect more highly than love.